Not every person is easy to deal with. Far from it! Some people have open, sunny and easy-going personalities whilst others remain constantly shielded by a potentially prickly outer shell.
When dealing with the more prickly type of person it pays to remember that you should never take it personality. It is just how they are. It is how they respond in general, not just towards you. In remembering this basic fact you immediately avoid being rubbed up the wrong way or moving into a defensive mode. Either of these reactions would only serve to make matters worse.
The key factor to appreciate when dealing with prickly people is that everyone has their own viewpoint and their own reasons for being how they are. Thinking in terms of what is fair, right, morally correct and the likes doesn’t help you to understand the other person.
Trying to see things through their eyes, on the other hand, will give you a far greater insight into them and enable you to communicate better and create a far easier and more rewarding relationship. Stop thinking about how it "should" be and accept things are they are. And don’t expect them to repay the compliment and automatically see it from your side either!
As you remain calm, relaxed and confident in yourself, you will find that your own feathers will remain unruffled even when the most difficult person is being prickly around you. You will also find it easier to identify ways in which to disarm their prickliness and get them to relax with you.
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Having confidence in yourself allows you to remain unruffled. A confident person worries little about what others think or why they are being difficult. With confidence you do not take these things personally. Rather, you can let these situations go, like water running off a ducks back.
Inevitably shy or nervous people are those who are most affected by these prickly types. Underlying shyness there is always a fear of having done something wrong. Thus the very prickliness of the other person triggers an unconscious alarm bell that in fact makes them feel both guilty and uncomfortable.
The shy person most probably realizes at a conscious level that they have done nothing wrong and that it is just the other person’s personality. But subconsciously they still feel uncomfortable, making it difficult to relax, let go and mentally step back from the situation.
Hypnosis is a very helpful tool in learning how to step back and also in building self-confidence. These are key ingredients in dealing with other people and creating good relationships.
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